You can desperately want things to change and still have a long list of things you don't want to do. And that can be true whether you're trying to quit drinking or already living sober. You don't want to
Getting older isn’t the same as growing up. You can have a career, a house, a family, and look completely responsible from the outside—and still realize you have no idea how to deal with disappointment, uncomfortable feelings, or any
You can stop drinking, completely change your life, and become someone you’re proud of… …and still cringe when you think about some of the things you did. Maybe it’s the way you treated your spouse. The fights you started.
Have you ever stopped and thought, Who am I without alcohol? Because alcohol doesn’t just numb stress, insecurity, loneliness, or uncomfortable feelings. It can numb your preferences, too. Alcohol made it easy to tolerate people, places, routines, and relationships
Have you ever spent an entire shower, your commute, a dog walk, or a sleepless night having a conversation that will likely never actually happen? Welcome to the club. We have these imaginary conversations in our heads ALL the
If you had to start your sobriety over tomorrow—for real, from zero—would you even know what to do? After many years sober, coaching thousands of people, and watching what actually works (and what doesn't), I can see exactly why
If you've ever wondered why quitting drinking didn't automatically fix your life, this episode will explain exactly why. One of the biggest misconceptions about recovery is believing alcohol is the entire problem. It's not. Alcohol is the top layer.
The purpose of a coping skill isn't to erase the feeling. It's to help you behave better while you're feeling bad. Most people believe they need more discipline, more motivation, or more willpower to stay sober. But the real
You survived the first 5 or 7 days of sobriety and you're finally starting to feel better. The anxiety is calming down. You're sleeping again. Your face looks better. The shame isn't screaming quite as loud anymore. And this
Making rules, breaking rules, starting over — if drinking takes up too much space in your brain, you'll recognize yourself in this conversation. Not a dramatic rock bottom. Not losing everything. Not waking up one day suddenly certain she