You want to set healthy boundaries, but you feel guilty.
A people-pleaser in a family that didn’t talk about feelings, sweep everything under the rug, and maybe you were labeled as ‘too emotional’.
Then, you grew up believing you don’t have the right to say no to things or stand up for yourself.
Our guest today, Amanda E. White, knows that journey, too.
Amanda struggled with her own high expectations of herself and the shame that comes when you don’t meet those expectations- and all that shame manifested through drinking, an eating disorder, unhealthy relationships, and so much more.
Growing up, you create a picture of yourself as a ‘nice’ person, and being a nice person means you do things for others, you help people, you say yes to things because you’re nice. And, unfortunately, that doesn’t set you up for success in healthy boundaries and protecting yourself, your time, and well-being.
If you want to start working on setting some healthy boundaries, Amanda is going to give you a couple of key one-liners to get you started with healthy boundaries and lessening some of that guilt you feel when you think about it.
As helping professionals it’s your own journey of healing your wounds that leads you to do this work to help others. It is heart-centered and passion-based. I know for me, I have such a desire to support people in their journey because I know, firsthand, how difficult this deep personal work is.
I know what it feels like to look at your life and feel disgusted and defeated. I know what it feels like to think you will never get your life together and be a good person because so many areas of your life are messed up and you can’t even figure out where to start. That’s where I was.
And our guest, knows that journey, too.
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